Have you ever heard someone say “wow that person is really connected”? Well what they’re really saying is that person has relationships with either a lot of the right kind of people, or they have relationships with very powerful people who can make things happen, … you know the movers and shakers.
We all know people with lots of connections and friends, or who have lots of likes on the pages of their social media applications.
Do you ever wish you were more well connected with others? Perhaps you’d like to be better connected in your business community, or in your social circles, or with your family and friends.
What’s interesting is that in this social media age, with a plethora of apps to connect better, many people feel less connected in a real and intimate way. Sure we know more about what others are doing, but do we really know them and relate with them better? Some of us feel less connected in this digital age than ever, and what we really crave more of is real relationships and connections with those who are traveling with us on this journey we call life.
Why do you think we crave this connection with others? I think it’s something that is within all us, and my faith leads me to believe that this desire was placed inside each of us by our creator who made us in His image, and who Himself craved a connection and relationship with us. After all this is why we were created.
We don’t have to agree on how it got there for us to agree that it’s a real innate desire within us all that when met creates a happier and more fulfilling life.
When I don’t feel connected properly with my creator, or my wife and family members I don’t feel right. It’s hard to get anything right when this is out of balance. I think we we’re all made this way, so getting this right is important.
Many of us have grown up without seeing really healthy connections and relationships modeled well for us, and of course nobody teaches us how to do this well do they? I believe it can be learned as easily as learning how to read or write.
As a professional recruiter, I’m in the business of connecting people for their mutual benefit and seeing it work out well up close is one of the greatest joys in my career.
If you’re like me, and you feel you could improve, and would like to improve in this area of connections I’d like to propose a few ideas to get this right:
Be present and actively listen to those around you, … no really listen.
Cultivate a genuine interest in others, & quit thinking about yourself so much.
Find a way to help, bless, assist, or encourage someone else today.
If you wish you had someone in your life that treated you this way, then go out and be that person for someone else today. To have friends we must be friendly.
In a word, we could all work on our humility! Remember true humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less!